Monday, March 15, 2010

Weird Weekend

Have you ever had one of those weekends where you feel like you are in another dimension? First of all, I picked up my husband's cold last week, and it seemed to crest over the weekend. Both of us took afternoon naps on Saturday and Sunday. Sunday afternoon we attended a visitation for a friend who died on Thursday. We came to know Bill through his sister, Judy. We hired Judy when Katie was six weeks old and I returned to work from maternity leave. She took care of Katie and Andy until Katie entered first grade.At that point I quit my 15 year job as vice president in an insurance company and went to work for our composting company.

Judy, however, very much remained a part of our lives. She continued to come and stay with the kids when Jim and I traveled, and later took care of our final baby, Kirby the cockapoo. She had moved in with her brother after their mom died 13 years ago, and they were best friends as well as siblings. And they were very much surrogate grandparents to our children as neither my folks or Jim's lived in St. Louis.

Bill was a sweet, gentle man who always had a twinkle in his eye. He loved his children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. He had a special place in his heart for my Katie. I think he may have more video footage of her than we do. She is just sick that she couldn't be here for the funeral, but she has mid-terms this week and will be heading home on Thursday for spring break. One of the first things she'll do when she gets home is go and see Judy.

I'm very worried about what will happen to Judy. They have her medicated since she was having panic attacks when told that Bill's cancer was terminal. She cannot afford the house they lived in, and I'm not even sure that her name is on the deed along with Bill's. While she does have a husband, they have been estranged for 15 years and they never had any children. She only gets $400 a month from social security. Who can live on that? Hopefully one of her sisters or nieces/nephews will offer to take her in. Losing her brother/best friend and losing her house - that sucks!

1 comment:

Mrs. Wryly said...

Yes it does. Really sucks.

Sorry to hear about your friend, and your cold. Take misery and square it.

Daylight savings time puts me into another dimension for several weeks. The older I get, the less I adapt.....